It may not sound like something you'd expect to be a successful strategy for getting your ex back, but it works really well to cut off all contact with your ex for about a month after the breakup. This has a number of good reasons behind it, and here are just a few.
1) Usually when two people who've been fighting continue to be around each other when tempers are still high, it causes more problems. Separating for a month or so functions as damage control, keeping you two from lashing out at one another and making things worse.
After that month of peace, you and your ex will be a lot less actively hostile. Breakups spin a lot of emotion around, and once that's settled some real healing can begin...but not before. If you give yourselves this break, the results will be way more successful.
2) Just because you're not actively fighting, don't think this doesn't apply to you. Even the nicest post-breakup relationship needs to have a break in it if you ever want to rekindle old feelings. If you two are still together after the separation, it'll be like you never did break up and your ex won't feel any need to get back together.
A couple quotes for you: "absence makes the heart grow fonder" and "you don't know what you have until it's gone." Being so close to one another for so long makes it harder to notice the great things about being together. When you two are forced to be apart, your ex actually gets the opportunity to miss you...and often that ends up making the situation sink in a lot deeper, and makes mutual agreement to get back together a lot easier.
3) When everything's going to pieces, and your ex is right in front of you all the time, it can be hard to make the right decisions. Flying by the seat of your pants reacting instead of just acting, you'll find it a lot tougher to work this out. What you need is some time and space alone to develop a plan of action.
It's a tricky thing to get somebody back after a blowout...people in pain behave differently than you may expect, and the right actions to get the right result may not be what you anticipate. Having a preset plan that has worked out what you need to do ahead of time will help prevent you from doing the wrong thing on the spur of the moment, even if it seems like the right thing at the time.
So there you go. 3 reasons why it's really beneficial to start out your breakup with a true clean break. No contact means no contact...no phone calls, no text messages, no email...nothing. This can really help you out, and I recommend it to everyone just fresh out of a relationship if you want to get your life together and get your ex back.
1) Usually when two people who've been fighting continue to be around each other when tempers are still high, it causes more problems. Separating for a month or so functions as damage control, keeping you two from lashing out at one another and making things worse.
After that month of peace, you and your ex will be a lot less actively hostile. Breakups spin a lot of emotion around, and once that's settled some real healing can begin...but not before. If you give yourselves this break, the results will be way more successful.
2) Just because you're not actively fighting, don't think this doesn't apply to you. Even the nicest post-breakup relationship needs to have a break in it if you ever want to rekindle old feelings. If you two are still together after the separation, it'll be like you never did break up and your ex won't feel any need to get back together.
A couple quotes for you: "absence makes the heart grow fonder" and "you don't know what you have until it's gone." Being so close to one another for so long makes it harder to notice the great things about being together. When you two are forced to be apart, your ex actually gets the opportunity to miss you...and often that ends up making the situation sink in a lot deeper, and makes mutual agreement to get back together a lot easier.
3) When everything's going to pieces, and your ex is right in front of you all the time, it can be hard to make the right decisions. Flying by the seat of your pants reacting instead of just acting, you'll find it a lot tougher to work this out. What you need is some time and space alone to develop a plan of action.
It's a tricky thing to get somebody back after a blowout...people in pain behave differently than you may expect, and the right actions to get the right result may not be what you anticipate. Having a preset plan that has worked out what you need to do ahead of time will help prevent you from doing the wrong thing on the spur of the moment, even if it seems like the right thing at the time.
So there you go. 3 reasons why it's really beneficial to start out your breakup with a true clean break. No contact means no contact...no phone calls, no text messages, no email...nothing. This can really help you out, and I recommend it to everyone just fresh out of a relationship if you want to get your life together and get your ex back.
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